When I present my programs for schools and parent teacher workshops .I remind them that bullying is not a normal part of growing up even though many adults still believe that it is..
I also explain that our children learn how to be bullies from us. When we criticize or make judgement of others we are teaching our children to do the same. So if we can work on improving our behavior our children will do the same.
My next door neighbor has a temper and he sometimes walks around growling like a bear. Couple weeks ago I jokingly called him “angry neighbor” and started to criticizing and making fun of his behavior. Days later my twelve year old daughter was on the phone with her friend and I heard her parrot most of what I said. I quickly pulled her to the side and told her that dad was wrong for making judgments about neighbor. I explained that I needed to concern myself with my life and how I presented myself to the world and should not be waisting time making fun of others.
So next time you are wondering how your child learned to say this or that, start listening to your own tapes and you will be surprised what you hear.
Here are some things to think about before you say something bad about the neighbor or your friends:
What give me the right to say this about another?
Why am I running from my own faults?
How can I be a better person?
By doing this you will improve yourself, your world and inspire your children to be respectful and kind to others.
Copyright Richard Paul 2010