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Super Hero Theme

free-superhero-clipart-supergirlsMany schools, libraries and churches have included or continue to have some kind of super hero theme as part of their curriculum or as part of their district wide positive behavior theme.

It is a great way to tie in with what kids like action packed movies, awesome comic books or fictional stories like Harry Potter or Grimm’s tales of good over powering evil.

Philip Zimbardo, the world-renowned psychologist says:  Evil can be fostered by dehumanization, diffusion of responsibility, obedience to authority, unjust systems, group pressure, moral disengagement, and anonymity, to name a few.

But when we ask why people become heroic, research doesn’t yet have an answer. It could be that heroes have more compassion or empathy; maybe there’s a hero gene; maybe it’s because of their levels of oxytocin—research by neuroeconomist Paul Zak has shown that this “love hormone” in the brain increases the likelihood you’ll demonstrate altruism. We don’t know for sure.

But what we do know is positive actions like tutoring a younger student, spending time with the new kid in the school or the so called unpopular student or just listening to a lonely person is a great way to be a hero. Standing up and not agreeing with other students who may be talking unkindly about another student or teacher is a sign of a super hero.

As part of a hero program at schools there should be a mix of information about kindness, generosity, unselfishness, sacrifice and the meaning of unconditional giving.

Remind them that there are many kinds of heroes, people who come out of nowhere to help someone in need or someone who wants to give their times and talent for the good of all people or someone who shouts out: “YOU SHOULDN”T DO THAT!” when someone is being teased.

Deepak Chopra says, “When you serve others, you gain more in return. If you give good things, then good things will flow your way.”

How can we get our students and children to think like a super hero?

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Explain to them:

Super Hero’s don’t make fun of other people

Super Hero’s don’t gossip, spread rumors or tell cruel stories about others

Super Hero’s unconditionally help others and speak up when someone is being bullied

 

Activity: On the story board have your students or child draw up a comic strip of the super hero they want to be. It can be a story or a series of pictures showing how they would unconditionally help, support or speak up against bullying behaviors.

 

If you would like to share your students or child’s pictures we would be happy to put them up on our blog for other students, parents and teachers to share with their classrooms.

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Self- Love

I am a trainer with Bully Free Schools, have had personal instructions from Stan Davis, author of “Schools Where Everyone Belongs”. I have studied the work of Shad Helmstetter, “The Self-Talk Solution” and the works of Gershen Kaufman, PHD, Lev Raphael, PHD and Pamela Espeland and their outstanding book “Stick Up For Yourself!” and many more.

One common thread to everything I have read and learned is the need for students as individuals to love and respect themselves. The problem is we can all talk about it and put up some posters on the wall but I believe in a perfect world there should be classes and or more instruction on the subject.

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This crazy fast pace world seems to focus more on the outer world and forget the need for personal inner work. The more we come to understand and respect who we are the more likely we will love and respect others too.

I believe the key is to share with the students the true meaning of the word LOVE. They in turn will come to understand that it is not being conceited to pat yourself on the back when you do something right, but rather a step toward a positive self-image and positive behavior skills.

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I was and still am a fan of the “Dr. Love”, the late Leo Buscaglia PhD, author, speaker, teacher and professor at the University of Southern California.  Here is a guy that not only walked the talk. He shared the message, he had the vision, he saw the need for self-love and love for others and mankind. He even convinced the university to offer up a class on it.

My programs implements all these elements listed above. The students come to understand the need for self-love, self-respect and why it is ok to peacefully stick up for yourself.

One of my favorite Dr. Love quotes seems to say it all: “Love is life. And if you miss Love, you miss Life”.