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Michigan Schools there is Grant Money for my Programs!

Since the program was reopened in January, the Michigan Humanities Council received 22 applications to fund $13,462 in support of Arts & Humanities Touring Program grants in communities across the state.

And, the Council is still accepting grant applications for programs between April 1 and September 30, 2010. The grants will be awarded as part of Michigan’s Arts and Humanities Touring Program, which consists of an online, juried directory of some of the state’s best cultural offerings including dance, music, storytellers, theatre, tradition bearers, exhibits, and visual artists. Grants of up to 40 percent of the cost of performances are awarded to schools, libraries, cultural centers, and nonprofit organizations to support presentations of those listed in the directory.

Where does bullying happen?

According to (Hoover,Oliver and Hazler 1992) most of the bullying happens at school and on the school bus to and from school.  I know most of the bullying for me in grade school happened to and from school. In my case one of the safety boys who was suppose to be our friend was really a bully.

I have talked to students who have said that they have been bullied in the classroom when the teacher isn’t looking.

This is why we have to continue to look for signs in our children.

If they are upset all the time or are not eating or don’t want to go on the bus or go to school this is when you have to step in and find out what is going on. Think when you were a kid and how you didn’t want to be the kid that was the cry baby and then take the appropriate action.

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Empower your Students

The Godfather of Anti-bullying, Dr. Dan Olweus who has researched bully victim problems for more than 20 years found “the single most effective deterrent to bullying is adult authority.” But acceding to Ginette Isenber who is one of the founders of School Lane Charter School, “We cannot impose a sense of safety or attachment on students. We have to empower them and create it with them.”   Many schools agree with and have put together strategies to promote respect and understanding throughout their schools. They have also promoted teacher/student involvement to help the victims and defuse the bullying. So in a sense there is still adult authority but the students are also part of the chain of command.

Create a Bully Free Culture in Your School

I presented a program for the Henry Ford Health System for their School Health Network.  They called the event R.A.P.  City- Resources Are Plentiful “Building Character- Create a Bully Free Culture in Your School.” The event was geared for school social workers, teachers, principals and it was open to several districts in the area.

 They had several awesome presenters at the event. Roberta Davis, Injury Prevention Educator, Children’s Hospital of Michigan, Peter Lundgren, President of the Bucket Fillers for Life, Sugarbush Elementary School Health Team presenting their own Character Counts, School wide anti-bullying program and Assistant Principal Pat Donahue of Chippewa Valley Schools presenting his own high school program that his team has created entitled Heros in the Hallway. It was a very enlightening event and I plan to contact each of these presenters in the next few months to record an interview so they can personally share their programs with you.

 

I was asked to present our Eliminating the Bullying program that I offer for both teacher and parent groups. We share tips and tools for both the victim and the bully. The last part of the program I discuss working as a team to stifle the bully.  I break them up into three groups 1) a student group, 2) A safety group 3) school staff group.

 The student group are instructed to offer ideas that students can actually implement in the school to end the bullying problem. The group at the R.A.P. City event offered these suggestions:

 1)      Use the bucket filler concept where you do for other and you will also be rewarded.

2)      Continue to reinforce the bullying programs and or implement the school policies when need to help their fellow students.

 The safety group consists of bus drivers, safety squad, crossing guards and parents in the community. The group at the R.A.P. City event offered these suggestions:

 1)      Monitor the bullying on computers (Parents need to be proactive)

2)      Document poor behavior on the bus or outside the school

3)      Praise positive behavior

4)      Have a parent volunteer on the buses to monitor activities

 The staff group consists of teachers, secretarial, custodians, lunchtime personal etc.

The group at the R.A.P. City offered these suggestions:

1)      Be more accessible, proactive and have an open line of communication

2)      Listen more to the students

3)      Don’t jump to conclusions when listening to parents

4)      Staff needs to use the same language when communicating to possible bully students

5)      Ask parents to be volunteer eyes and ears at school events and on the bus

6)      CIA Agent students to secretly document and give information on a bullying situation.

 If you have other ideas you want to share please send a comment or email me at Richard@richardpaul.com

Make the Right Decision to Be Respectful and Kind

I had the opportunity to present my Diversity program to Hallowell Elementary in Horsham PA and the principal Steven Glaize was awesome. He even bought me lunch, a Hoagie and it was delicious. Steve and I talked about how schools and parents need to keep reinforcing respect and tolerance. We both agreed that if we keep reminding students to respect, understand and be nice to one another over and over again it will eventually sink in. When  they are  just about to say or do the wrong thing hopefully they will  remember a word or phrase someone said that reminds them to choose respect over disrespect, kindness over bullying .

As Mr. Glaize so gracefully put it to his student, ”you are all awesome students, we have learned so much about diversity and respect for each other but now i’s up to you to do it. When you are in class and on the playground make the right decision to be respectful and kind.”

I look forward to returning to Hallowell Elementary, the students and staff are not only awesome but they are proactive when it comes to respecting and caring for each other including me.

Why Bullies Bully

There has been many who have tried to figure out why bullies bully other kids.

Here is a email from a client:

“Understanding  “why bullies bully. I explain to to my students that bullies are actually very scared people and unhappy with themselves inside. That something has happened or is happening to them that has made them unhappy and scared inside. So I tell my students when they are being bullied to look at the person and tell them that you are sorry they are not very happy inside. Also I tell my students to “USE THE WALL” and imagine an invisible thick wall around yourself that only lets the good word in and the bad stuff can’t penetrate. Finally I talk to them alot about not giving the bully any power over them to get them upset, which is what the bully wants to ge…. power over them.

Keep up the good work,

Mr. Kim Noxhall

Elementary Character/P.E. Teacher, Fairfield, Ohio

Hug your Son!

Here is a great song that will make you want to hug your kids no matter how old they may be:

\”GREAT SONG ON YOUTUBE\”    Song for my Son – Mickey Carroll

It is a reminder that if we want our children to be better we need to be better to them.

If we want our children to keep their chin up high we to must give them encouragement and love.

If we want our children to reach for the stars we  need to continue to support and guide them.

If we want our children to know we love them we need to show them.

Both Bully’s and Victims need to know they are loved and soon the labels will dissappear and so will the bullying. 

Richard Paul

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National Bully Prevention Week October 4-10,2009

Lets work together to prevent bullying in our schools.

Lets get students talking and working together as a team to stop the bullying in school.

The goal is to offer a safe school for both students and teachers.

Annie thanks for sharing this:

 

Hi Richard!
 
My name is Annie Meagher and I’m from CSEE’s BullyBust 2009 campaign. I found your blog (No Bully Club Blog) and thought you might be interested in an upcoming event we are having in New York City and Los Angeles. As you may already know National Bullying Prevention Awareness Week is on October 4-10, 2009. BullyBust 2009 is launching a nationwide campaign to help raise awareness about this important cause. The face of our campaign, teen actress, Sammi Hanratty will be there as well as clothing designer Boy Meets Girl. You’ll be able to buy an exclusive Boy Meets Girl BullyBust T-shirt and have Sammi sign it. A portion of the proceeds will go to helping schools-in-need receive resources to help prevent violence and bullying. We will be giving away a bunch of information on how you too can take a stand against bullying in your school.
 
These events are open to anyone who is committed to raising awareness about the need to eliminate bullying and violence in our schools nationwide!
 
 So please spread the word on your blog and pass it on to others! It only takes a minuted you will be helping us give resources to kids who may need your help!
 
For New York City our BullyBust 2009 campaign party will be held on Friday September 11th from 4:00pm-6:00pm at the Bloomingdales on 59th and Lexington (8th floor). 
 
For Los Angeles our BullyBust 2009 campaign party will be held on Saturday September 19th from 1:00pm-4:00pm at the Bloomingdales in the Century City Shopping Center.
 
For more information on our campaign to stop bullying in schools please go to our website and pass it along!
http://www.bullybust.org
 
School Programs: www.ducksense.com

 e-mail me at: 
richard@richardpaul.com

The View at Disneyland Talks about Bullying

If you haven’t seen todays re-broadcast of The View, on ABC, you may want to go to their site to watch it.

They had an interview with Miley Cyrus and she was talking about her new book, “Miles to Go”. In one of the chapters she shares that she was a victim of a bully in middle school and how it was handled. Like most teens Miley was afraid to speak out for fear of retaliation and issolation but with the help of her eavesdropping father Billy Ray Cyrus, action was taken at the school.

This story is a great lesson for both teens who are victims of a bully and parents. Teens need to know that unless they tell someone no one will be able to help them with their bullying problem. Parents also need to keep their eyes and ears open and have a willingness to step in to take action if they feel their child is a victim of a bullying situation at school.

Copyright Richard Paul 2009