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Who Are You?

Self Esteem

You are not black, yellow, white or red. You are not abled or disabled, not special or special needs, smart or at risk, you are a human being.

No matter what others may think, say or do to try to bring you down, be brave, keep your head up high, and be proud of yourself for the goals you have achieved, for the respect and kindness you have given others and for the many talents you have and will soon discover.

You are a gift to the world, there is only one of you, and there will never be another just like you.

Your thoughts your dreams, your abilities are yours. Only you can discover your life’s mission, create a vision and take the action to live out your dreams.

You are the author, the artist and the creator of who you are and what you want to be.

Copyright Richard Paul 2014

Setting Rules and Sticking to Them

Seven years ago I adopted a white German Shepherd mix from the Kalamazoo Animal Rescue. When we drove over to meet him he was an angel. I played with him, walked him and decided quickly without consulting my wife and kids to adopt the dog.

Needless to say when he came into our home he turned from this calm laid back dog into a monster. It got to the point where my wife said, “It’s either me or that crazy dog!”

I called some friends who knew a dog trainer and when I told him my wife gave me the ultimatum he said, “Do you like your wife?” Then he asked me a bunch of questions and said, “The problem is you have no rules and consequences. You need to figure out your rules, what this dog can or cannot do and enforce them. The dog needs to understand the consequences so he can begin to learn what is right and what is wrong.  Most importantly you need to be specific and stick to it!”  We did what he said and implemented positive training and overtime he has become great loving family friend.

Let’s be clear our children are not dogs, but there needs to be rules at school and at home that children/students can understand and know what will happen if they break those rules.

For example many children are involved in a sport. From day one they are taught what to do and what not to do. They’re given a set of rules or boundaries and if a player breaks a rule or steps out of the boundaries there are consequences. When my daughter plays softball if she gets three strikes she’s out.

At home and at school we need to discuss the rules and the consequences with our children and students. They need to know without a doubt that if you break a rule they will disciplined accordingly. There can be no second chance, or allowing even one child to slack off.  If this is done even once, they will take advantage of you or the situation.

I was at a restaurant a few weeks ago and I overheard a mother saying to her child, “If you do that one more time we are going home!” After eight more times the child was still aggressive and unruly and she was still threatening to take him home.

Like New Year’s resolutions if you don’t actually implement them then why even write them out or bother saying you are going to do something if you’re not going to follow through.

Here are some things to do:

Sit down with your children and create a discipline chart that they can understand.

Once a month or as needed go over the chart explaining behaviors you expect from your children,

Don’t write a bunch of rules or create them as you go along, instead write five or ten and stick to them.