Phone: 800-579-8051     email:  

Entries Tagged as ''

Where does bullying happen?

According to (Hoover,Oliver and Hazler 1992) most of the bullying happens at school and on the school bus to and from school.  I know most of the bullying for me in grade school happened to and from school. In my case one of the safety boys who was suppose to be our friend was really a bully.

I have talked to students who have said that they have been bullied in the classroom when the teacher isn’t looking.

This is why we have to continue to look for signs in our children.

If they are upset all the time or are not eating or don’t want to go on the bus or go to school this is when you have to step in and find out what is going on. Think when you were a kid and how you didn’t want to be the kid that was the cry baby and then take the appropriate action.

Please share a comment with our readers…..

Empower your Students

The Godfather of Anti-bullying, Dr. Dan Olweus who has researched bully victim problems for more than 20 years found “the single most effective deterrent to bullying is adult authority.” But acceding to Ginette Isenber who is one of the founders of School Lane Charter School, “We cannot impose a sense of safety or attachment on students. We have to empower them and create it with them.”   Many schools agree with and have put together strategies to promote respect and understanding throughout their schools. They have also promoted teacher/student involvement to help the victims and defuse the bullying. So in a sense there is still adult authority but the students are also part of the chain of command.

Create a Bully Free Culture in Your School

I presented a program for the Henry Ford Health System for their School Health Network.  They called the event R.A.P.  City- Resources Are Plentiful “Building Character- Create a Bully Free Culture in Your School.” The event was geared for school social workers, teachers, principals and it was open to several districts in the area.

 They had several awesome presenters at the event. Roberta Davis, Injury Prevention Educator, Children’s Hospital of Michigan, Peter Lundgren, President of the Bucket Fillers for Life, Sugarbush Elementary School Health Team presenting their own Character Counts, School wide anti-bullying program and Assistant Principal Pat Donahue of Chippewa Valley Schools presenting his own high school program that his team has created entitled Heros in the Hallway. It was a very enlightening event and I plan to contact each of these presenters in the next few months to record an interview so they can personally share their programs with you.


I was asked to present our Eliminating the Bullying program that I offer for both teacher and parent groups. We share tips and tools for both the victim and the bully. The last part of the program I discuss working as a team to stifle the bully.  I break them up into three groups 1) a student group, 2) A safety group 3) school staff group.

 The student group are instructed to offer ideas that students can actually implement in the school to end the bullying problem. The group at the R.A.P. City event offered these suggestions:

 1)      Use the bucket filler concept where you do for other and you will also be rewarded.

2)      Continue to reinforce the bullying programs and or implement the school policies when need to help their fellow students.

 The safety group consists of bus drivers, safety squad, crossing guards and parents in the community. The group at the R.A.P. City event offered these suggestions:

 1)      Monitor the bullying on computers (Parents need to be proactive)

2)      Document poor behavior on the bus or outside the school

3)      Praise positive behavior

4)      Have a parent volunteer on the buses to monitor activities

 The staff group consists of teachers, secretarial, custodians, lunchtime personal etc.

The group at the R.A.P. City offered these suggestions:

1)      Be more accessible, proactive and have an open line of communication

2)      Listen more to the students

3)      Don’t jump to conclusions when listening to parents

4)      Staff needs to use the same language when communicating to possible bully students

5)      Ask parents to be volunteer eyes and ears at school events and on the bus

6)      CIA Agent students to secretly document and give information on a bullying situation.

 If you have other ideas you want to share please send a comment or email me at